As a parent and wife and being married to someone from a different culture, I believe for my own sanity that couples therapy or therapy is necessary!  This post is about the brilliant advice I received from my couples therapist after my first child.

Problem:  No sleep, resentful towards my husband because he had freedom to go to work out of the house, I was only talking to a baby all day long, I was doing EVERYTHING for the baby which includes thinking and doing for baby related things.  If I wasn’t doing it, it bothered me that I had to ask him to help or I wanted him to just know to do things.

Insert Couples Therapy Session:  We both b*tch about all of our problems in a safe place and then the therapist tells us that we both are right and wrong, then gives us the best advice that we still do to this day.

All is fair in a game of ROCKS, PAPER, SCISSORS!!! Winner chooses what they want to do.  Only play ONE round, winner of that chooses which task they would prefer, it can also be one task and the other is nothing (or 5 minutes free!!)  It also helps bring back a fun childhood game to solve some real issues!

• We do this for anything (changing dirty diapers, taking the dog out, putting one of the kids to bed, dishes or bathing kids).
• Do it for literally anything that either parent could do and if one is doing it they would be mad that the other is doing it.
• Both could be “doing” options or it could be something and then other option is a little freedom for 5 minutes!

This saves me a lot of the time when I go to give him a hard time, he just puts his fist in his other hand and we play one round and since its fair there are no sore losers!!

Try it for quick things relating to kid tasks!  The best!!

Thank you Couples Therapy!